Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Sidelines

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It turned out I had been fortunate that gym class showers had become opt-in when we started sixth grade, because now I didn't have to come-up with some explanation why I would no longer take them. And in fact, had I participated in sixth grade, there may have been some obvious differences between me and the rest of the boys that might have been immediately apparent and have brought unexpected scrutiny.
In the previous two years the gym teacher had distinguished himself by providing us a nice variety of activities and introducing us to many different sports than we wouldn't otherwise have gotten to try out on our own. One was likely something many students got to do which was running a lap around the field. In our case the gym teacher had us group together, first the boys, then with the girls behind us and we started our run. By the time we reached the far side of the field, the rest of the boys were pulling away from me and the girls were falling behind. By the third corner of the field, the boys had all left me in the dust and I did the last long leg of the run alone, between the group of boys ahead of me and the group of girls behind me. When I reached the end of the run the gym teacher gave me this long, strange look.
Another time he and the assistant coach had set-up an obstacle course in the gym. We were shown the route and every twist and turn to take, items to go under versus things to go over. And he had us go one by one, each starting a couple minutes after the previous so we would have enough space between us so one wouldn't have to wait for the one before. When it came my turn, I did the course and all the appropriate twists and turns. I thought I'd done everything right, but once done and returning to the benches, rather than pay attention to the kids going through the course after me, the coach again gave me that long, strange look as if he suspected something. If he did, I never found out about it, though at the same time I was left wondering about those two occasions.
The final side note concerning school itself was from the tail end of the school year. Between classes I went to my locker one day to exchange books only to find the padlock cut off, apparently with a bolt cutter, and my locker ransacked. I went straight to the office to report it and they told me they already knew... And yet hadn't let me know? I asked about the details but they wouldn't tell me anything beyond they already knew and it had been taken care of. Again, it had been taken care of yet my padlock was destroyed and my locker in disarray? I wasn't feeling very taken care of. I asked to see the Principal.
The Principal had been the new Vice Principal when I had joined the school in first grade. As the elementary wing had its own main office that was no longer used as such, it was provided to him as his office. Over my elementary school years, I had often seen him in the hallway and nodded respectfully to him and occasionally said ''Hi'' when passing by him on my own. By around seventh grade the Principal retired and the Vice Principal moved up the ladder. Given my years of seeing him and saying ''Hi'' from time to time, I felt like I knew him and as such, I was comfortable requesting to talk to him even though I was a lowly student.
The office staff was startled by this request and went into his office to talk to him, then the secretary emerged and said I could see him first thing the following morning to talk about it. I did show up and met with him at the appointed time. I told him of the locker incident, he already knew and wanted to know what I had wanted. I asked for some details and he explained that a student said he had locked himself out of his locker and asked the shop teacher to borrow the bolt cutters. The shop teacher let him and they didn't realize he had used it for my locker until after the fact. He wasn't going to say who the student was, but assured me it was taken care of. Was there anything else? I recommended that in the future they verify who's locker it is before allowing the bolt cutters to be used. He agreed and assured me that a policy had now been put in place to guard against that happening again. I also mentioned that I had not been informed of the incident, just went to my locker to discover it for myself; I recommend that for something like this the student should be notified once the office staff finds out. He agreed it had been an oversight and they would add that to their procedures. Then I pointed out that I was out of a padlock and asked if the school would be reimbursing me for it. The Principal thought about this for a bit, then said I could use one of the standard issue school padlocks without placing a deposit for it. While it didn't make the situation whole, as technically the school padlock would only be a loaner till the end of the term, I agreed to that as the Principal had shown me the respect of meeting with me to discuss the issue. The meeting ended and I felt it had gone very well. As the only stutter in school, it was a given that I might be shown less than full respect, but he had left me feeling fully respected. I like to think that this encounter with him, showing that I had a thoughtful side and could discuss issues as an adult, was one of the contributing reasons why he let me keep the 'Intro To Algebra' class card for my coming high school year, against the recommendations of the adviser. Ultimately I will never know for sure.
At the branch grocery store, it turned out, not only was I no longer in charge of the beer case and stocking its shelves, but I was also no longer allowed to bag groceries or be the temporary relief cashier. It was felt those activities were too visible through the large glass windows at the front of the store and I ''might be seen by somebody.'' I guess the fear was the State Labor Inspector would be minding his own business, driving by on the street, glimpse me through the window working at the store, and slam on his brakes to file a report...? After four years of working at the store, starting out wrapping meat and produce and working my way up to stocker and relief cashier, I was increasingly dispirited by now being curtailed and hidden away in my fifth year. By the end of eighth grade, I had phased-out working at the grocery store and subsisted on my Summer lawn mowing income at the meat cutter's house. This left me with more free time during the Summer days and I spent many of them visiting my new friend Luke and often taking bike rides with him around the more rural south end of town.
As fate would have it, the lawn mowing job came to a surprise end by the middle of that August. I don't know why or what happened, I just know that my mother was the one to tell me and she scrambled to find me another lawn mowing job to replace it, I guess in fear that I might start showing up at the store again on Sundays and cramp her and the store owner's activities. I was to now handle the lawn at a retired couple's home. They kept a larger area mowed than the meat cutter had, but their lawn was proper grass, not a mix of wild grass and cut back hay. The husband had reached the point where he had become too frail to continue mowing it himself using his riding mower and spent the first week teaching me how to use the mower and showing me the cut pattern he had been using over the years. A riding mower was a nice change of pace and saved me from the excessive sweat I was getting that summer doing the meat cutter's yard using a walk behind mower while wearing the ACE bandage around my chest. But this new job only lasted a month as the husband died early into September and his widow only had me mow the yard a final time two weeks later to prepare for the Fall season.
My mother needn't have feared, though, as I had gotten use to not working at the store on Sundays during the previous year's fall and winter breaks from mowing. With neither the income from working at the grocery store or from mowing, I started to use the money I had saved up at the bank in the previous three years for my spending money during my last year living at the apartment.
During my eighth grade year, my not as older brother had worn out his welcome living with my eldest brother and his girl friend. Mother explained that my eldest brother had moved to a smaller apartment that didn't have a spare bedroom as a hint that my not as older brother wouldn't be able to join them at the new apartment. For whatever reason, the split came. My not as older brother again returned to living with my father at the family home, though this time, he decided not to move back into the bedroom that had originally been my eldest brother's, the one he had moved into after my eldest brother had left. He got himself a used, larger bed and moved into the empty bedroom that had originally been my sister's and then my mother's for the three years my parents had slept apart while in the same house. My own bedroom at the family home remained the bedroom I had inherited from my not as older brother years earlier and still used it twice a week when I'd stay over with my father on his days off. Though, without mother living there to tend to it, my sheets were getting a bit gamey and the room a bit dusty. I would have to learn how to wash my own stuff and clean house, I feared.
My not as older brother returned to working at the main grocery store, though this time, rather than save up money for another term at College, he decided to buy a car and plan a permanent move out west. As the job prospects in the rural west near my sister had turned out a bit thin, he decided this time to move to a place that was sure to have plenty of jobs, yet be near plenty of skiing as well: The City Of Denver. As the start of Summer of Nineteen Seventy-Eight came, he packed-up his belongings tightly into his small compact car and drove off. First with a trip through lower Canada, then south to visit my sister, then to Colorado.
His move would turn out to be pivotal to my life.




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