Thursday, January 30, 2014

Living Arrangements

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What's a mother to do when her plans don't pan out?
The apartment had always been temporary, but not in the way it turned out to be. By Spring of Nineteen Seventy-Six, I had settled into the big bedroom and I had even gotten a modular shelving system which you could choose how it fit together. I used one section for a bed table between the two beds and the rest made a blocky pyramid shape for the far wall of the room which finally left no more empty looking areas. By May, mother rewarded me with a small black & white television set for the room and it fit nicely on the top shelf of the unit. The following month, I discovered the trick of the 'selfless gift' of the T.V.: It would now be her room.
Her three pieces of furniture were moved into the area where the big round throw rug had been while mine was moved piece by piece into the now empty smaller bedroom. The bed had to once again be stacked into bunk beds with my pieces of furniture squirreled into the handful of available corners. She kept the shelving system and the T.V. though I needed to clear my stuff and put it into boxes as I didn't have shelves in the smaller room. After a year of slowly expanding my belongings to fit in the large room, my stuff now seemed cramped in the other room whereas mother's, which had just fit the smaller room, now looked lost in the large room.
Mother explained that we were doing this because Joe, the store owner, was separating from his wife and would soon be moving in with us and bring his son, William. William would be taking the lower bunk of my bed and the larger bedroom would soon be full because of Joe's stuff when he moved in. Mother also bought a large brown faux leather recliner for the living area of the first floor and the original third chair of the living room set was pinched into the smaller bedroom with me. It was nice having a club chair in my bedroom as I had never had one before, but it now meant a bit of careful maneuvering when crossing the room.
In July, mother arranged a play date for William and me which was the rare time I had seen him outside of school since second grade five years earlier. But this play date was nothing more than Joe arriving at the apartment with William; mom and I got into his car and we drove to an out of town burger stand for lunch. Once done, we returned to the apartment where mom and Joe talked downstairs while she had me show William around upstairs. About a half hour later Joe left with William and that was the last of it. She later told me that Joe's wife wouldn't let him leave without taking William and mother didn't want to deal with William. I suspect in reality Joe had never signed-up for the deal and mother set-up the lunch date saying it was at my request. Once we'd been sent upstairs, mother had lobbied Joe about how well the lunch went and how he should move in, and he declined. To me, that theory makes more sense. But it is just my theory.
For New Years Nineteen Seventy-Seven, mother decided it was silly having the large room mostly empty to herself and me stuffed into the smaller room and we swapped back to how it had been, only this time I had the chair in the large room along with the rest of my original two bed layout. I also got to keep the television.
While it was nice to have the black & white T.V. in my bedroom, mother was so rarely home during the early evenings or Sunday afternoons that I had plenty of time to watch the color set on the main floor, so it sat mostly unused in the large bedroom until my thirteenth birthday. For that year's twenty dollars and my additional ten, I discovered a video game console I could afford at a capital city department store and snatched it up. Featuring 'Pong' and the single player version called 'Squash', it also had a plastic gun and you could do target practice. The pong dot would wander around the dark screen and you'd aim and press the trigger button and if the light sensor in the gun saw white, you scored a point. When Luke would visit my house we'd play this and he marveled at how good I was at it as I most always scored. In reality, I had accidentally found out that aiming at the white wall behind the T.V. worked just as well as aiming at the dot, and the white wall didn't move around either. I'm so evil.
If Joe wasn't going to move in, mother decided to make the apartment his full service retreat away from home. Specifically, as the branch grocery store was open Friday evenings, mother would take the evenings off to prepare dinner for 'us'. Since moving into the apartment, I had been on my own for food preparation, the only exceptions being when other family members had visited during the holidays. But now mother was actually making dinner for 'us', meaning her & Joe... and I was welcome to join. The most common two meals were fondue, where we could stick various small bits of food into boiling oil or melted cheese, and 'True Italian Spaghetti'. For the latter, mother explained that Joe had told her that true Italian spaghetti sauce was very chunky with clumps of vegetables and chicken and so she made that for him. These dinners lasted for about six months, then Joe started to find excuses not to come anymore. Mother would prepare the meal and we'd sit and wait for Joe to come. Then she'd call to find out when he'd get there and then a couple hours later we'd eat without him. She stopped making Friday night dinners after three weeks of this and returned to 'work' on those evenings instead.
We settled back to the old practice of once a month for Fridays, Joe would take us to the burger stand out of town. Over the four years I'd see this stand expand, starting out as a box with two serving windows in front and a couple of picnic tables to the side. First they made a back room with tables and chairs protected from the weather where you could have something fancy like burger patties without the buns as if it were therefore a ground steak dinner on a paper plate. Then a true dining room was built in where the picnic tables had been. Half high walls and a roof, it was enclosed with windows all around making a rather nice space with full dinner tables and a really expanded menu featuring items other than burgers and fries. By the time the four years had come to an end a chain had bought them out and it was officially a full service restaurant. Once that happened, Joe no longer wanted to go there, perhaps because it was too public, and we instead went to a dank greasy spoon room attached to a small interstate highway side-motel. Obviously intended for truckers, I wondered if this was where mother and Joe had been coming too over the years when 'staying at the store late to count the money'. Given the atmosphere, I soon bowed out of joining these dinners and any pretense of being a 'family' disappeared.
Actually, as a side note, during those four years the kids in the apartment town took it as 'common sense' that I was Joe's illegitimate kid. This impression was enhanced when my Iroquois nose hump sprouted in my preteens and they took it to be an Italian nose. It turns out generations of Native American actors had made a living playing Italian mobsters in the movies and on the small screen.
By the Spring of Nineteen Seventy-Nine, mother had realized that this was all that her life with Joe would be and she started house hunting. There were a few I could see living in, but mother compared the color-painted or wall-papered walls of those houses to the bright white walls of the apartment and found them wanting. And in fact, she found her life of the past few years wanting and prospective future as well.
Suddenly, I was told we were moving to Colorado.



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